Susie and Tony Troxler have never given up on being parents. The dream never faded, even when Susie was 50 years old.
This Thanksgiving, the couple will finally live their dream with a newborn baby. Lily Antonia Troxler was born on September 29 – after more than a decade of struggling with infertility.
“It’s really, really, really surreal,” said Susie Troxler Hello america to welcome a girl at 50. “I was single, I had been a wife and now the idea of being a mom, it still didn’t come through I don’t think so.”
Susie Troxler, a psychologist in High Point, North Carolina, married Tony, 61, 13 years ago. She thought she would be able to conceive and live out her goal as a mother, but the years continued to pass and hope began to fade.
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Couples who try to get pregnant after the age of 35 are considered to be of “advanced maternal age,” according to several peer-reviewed studies. But Susie Troxler said Lily had become a “miracle baby” in a separate interview with Cone Health.
“It was so surreal,” she said. “Everything was in place to make this moment happen. It’s hard to understand – we’re not just husband and wife anymore, we’re “mom” and “dad”.
Tony Troxler said he’s still trying to figure out he’s a father. “Even now I find myself looking at her,” he said. “Before she was born, she had me wrapped around her pinky finger.”
After undergoing surgery in 2019 to allow Susie to become pregnant, she underwent several rounds of IVF (in vitro fertilization). They were unable to produce a viable embryo and therefore turned to egg donation.
“When we got married we just assumed we would get pregnant and then that didn’t happen,” she said. “But we’re both very old-school, and when we grew up, no one even talked or discussed IVF. It wasn’t even a thing.”
But these alternate methods became a way for the Troxlers to get Lily. Susie met a new obstetrician-gynecologist, who raised the hope she was looking for.
In February, the Troxlers had one last chance with a frozen embryo. A few weeks later, Susie was pregnant with Lily.
Susie said: “I am convinced that children come when they are supposed to come, regardless of the age of the parents. We see it as exactly what it should be. She is our miracle baby.”