A post has gone viral on Reddit after a woman shared that she decided to exclude her older sister from vacation after a ‘ruined’ trip to Las Vegas.
Redditor u/MintyFreshGirl wrote about family dynamics on the “Am I the a**hole” subreddit in a post titled “AITA for taking trips without a sister because she’s religious and ruining things?” which has been voted over 9,000 times.
In fact, in 2021, the Pew Research Center reported on the continued shift toward a more secular society that is occurring in the United States. A recent survey showed that the number of Americans “without religious affiliation” was six percentage points higher than five years ago and 10 points higher than a decade ago.
According to the 2021 report, “about three in ten American adults (29%) are ‘non-religious’ – people who describe themselves as atheists, agnostics, or ‘nothing in particular’ when asked about their religious identity.”
She writes that ten years ago, for her 21st birthday, she decided to take a trip to Las Vegas with her older sisters and cousin. Although at first Redditor had her own room, one of her sisters and her cousin ended up moving into her room because the older sister, Christina, was the “worst person to live with”.
“She was a horrible addition to the trip and we ended up telling her to do her own thing,” the Redditor wrote. “She wanted to go to bed early, she wanted to go see a musical instead of clubbing. She wanted to eat early, then get up early.”
She said the three women ended up staying three more days after dropping Christina off at the airport so they could have “a stress-free time”. To this day, they still speak of the horror of the journey.
She said that since that trip, they started planning a vacation without her.
The Redditor said that while they were still doing “stuff” with Christina, they were things that wouldn’t make her “uncomfortable”: “No booze, no clubs, nothing late on evening. And nothing when her kids came home from school.”
She said the separation was working until their mother ‘blew it up’ that Christina had been left out of a recent trip to a lake house.
“Christina had been trying to call us to ask if we could watch the girls while they visited their family in the hospital a few towns down,” she wrote. “Mum took the kids but said we probably wouldn’t be answering the phone anytime soon as we were going to be out in the woods for a week.”
She said when they returned, Christina confronted her and asked why she and her children weren’t invited.
“I said we didn’t want to, it was just a time to relax. And she has a problem with us not being married, drinking, etc. so why would she want to come?” she wrote.
She said she revealed to her sister that these kinds of trips had been going on for 10 years, from Vegas, and that Christina left “very upset.”
Many commenters understood the Redditor’s decision to exclude her sister from the plans, saying she didn’t have to include her in anything she did.
“OP, your sister and cousin just aren’t compatible with your older sister, and that’s fine. She is who she is and you don’t seem to have a problem with that. It also sounds like she would be miserable on your girly trips and she would make you miserable. So just tell her that,” one commenter wrote.
Another commenter seemed to empathize with Christina’s hurt feelings, but thinks it’s on her because of her “lifestyle”.
“It’s gonna be hard. But your sister chose to live a certain way. You and others don’t live that way. Presumably you don’t tell her how to live, she should reciprocate,” wrote the commentator. “It hurts to be left out of some things, but that’s the price of the lifestyle she wants. It’s going to take her a little while to come to terms with that.”
In a response to a commenter, Redditor wrote that his sister wanted them to “stop doing sinful things” and “act like a religious 90s sitcom for her kids.”
One commenter made it clear that everyone should be able to enjoy a trip the way they want: “NTA. If I spend money on a trip, I want and deserve to enjoy it.”