A woman is backed for leaving a bad review of a small, family-run shop specializing in Japanese animation and comics, after an employee harassed her and said women were unable to understand the popular series naruto.
Redditor u/throwitinthecorner10 shared his story with popular subreddit r/AmITheA**hole, earning 8,400 upvotes and 1,000 comments in seven hours for his post, “AITA for leaving a bad review on a small store.”
She says it was her anniversary with her boyfriend, and the couple have a tradition of going to a store, parting ways and buying each other presents, which they then exchange immediately afterwards. This year, the store they chose was a small anime store; the original poster (OP) says she’s a “big anime nerd” and that the shop also had video games, which her boyfriend liked.
As she was looking for a gift, one of the store employees approached her and pointed to one of her tattoos, this one depicting Kakashi from Naruto, and asked her if she got it to please her boyfriend. She said no and showed some of her other naruto tattoos, telling her that she’s always loved the show. At this point, however, the clerk began to question him about narutotrying to prove she wasn’t actually a fan.
“I told him I wouldn’t have spent $1,000 on tattoos from an anime I knew nothing about, and I didn’t appreciate him trying to catch me in a ‘gotcha moment. ‘” wrote u/throwitinthecorner10. “He told me he didn’t believe a girl could ever fully understand Naruto’s true story and the depth behind it (lol)”
She told him she didn’t need any help and he could go back to the registry. In return, he called the PO a “budding budding bitch” and walked into the back room. She bought her presents and left.
Afterward, she wrote a review of the store, saying “if you’re a woman showing up, enter with caution, one of the employees will call you ab**ch when you don’t want to prove your ‘nerd cred’ to him.” .”
She says the store owner asked her to remove the review because people had complained about the employee in question and the store’s revenue had plummeted.
“I told him I wouldn’t and maybe he shouldn’t hire misogynists if he doesn’t want bad reviews,” she wrote. “My friends tell me I overreact.”
One of the most irritating things that women and other people who present themselves as feminine face in geek circles is the myth of the “fake geek girl”. Some geeks take it upon themselves to keep their hobby, doubting that women can be “real fans”, rather than just pretending to try to attract men.
In 2018, a tweet went viral describing a mother and daughter’s experience at a fan convention. Doctor Who, another staple of geek culture. The 11-year-old was cosplaying and met her favorite actor, Peter Capaldi. But afterwards, a grown man began questioning the girl about her knowledge, forcing her mother to intervene and get the man to stop harassing her child, according to Kate Gardner, writing for The Mary Sue.
Gardner shares her own experiences of being accused of faking her fandom in the play. In one instance, when she mentioned she was going to see one of the avengers movies, people she talked to thought she wasn’t going there as a fan, but because she was attracted to one of the main actors.
“I had no words then, but I do now: It was unfair and, quite frankly, I crossed a line,” Gardner wrote.
Academic Suzanne Scott wrote a book in 2019, Fake Geek Girls: Fandom, gender and the culture industry of convergence, on the phenomenon. In her book, Scott describes “how long-standing gender biases within geek culture have paved the way for an ingrained understanding of digital culture as an inherently male space in which women are still already already” intruders “”.
However, women have always been an important part of the fandom and geek spaces. Fan and writer Bjo Trimble is credited with reversing NBC’s 1968 decision to cancel star trek by leading a letter-writing campaign to the network, according to a feminist magazine Female dog. In the 70s, Wimmen’s Comix was a major force in the underground comix movement, and the magazine – and collective – was originally formed in response to sexism in the movement. And, of course, Mary Shelley, who wrote Frankenstein in 1818 and the last man in 1826, the first science fiction novel is credited with being written by modern luminaries like Brian Aldiss.
Reddit was unimpressed with the anonymous anime seller and backed u/throwitinthecorner10.
“[Not the A**hole]. As if Naruto was a great epic difficult to understand. A 12 year old could figure it out,” u/FunOptimal7980 wrote in the top rated comment with 10,200 upvotes.
“The owner admits the employee is a problem and instead of getting rid of him, he’s harassing customers to take down their reviews. The owner should be ashamed too,” u/ambiguousearrings wrote.
“Fellow anime gamer/nerd. I hate those assholes with fiery passion. Thanks for leaving the warning so that us nerds don’t have to deal with his silly ass,” wrote writes u/Caramellatteistasty.
“It always frustrates me about how guys treat me if I tell them I like what they would consider ‘masculine’ anime. I never have a problem when I’m wearing a Sailor Moon or CardCaptor Sakura shirt , but heaven help me if I wear my DragonBall Z, Sword Art Online, or even my Seven Deadly Sins stuff I even had a guy at a convention I went to last year argue with me about the way, as a humble woman, I couldn’t appreciate [Neon] Genesis Evangelion or figure it out. Anime is for everyone!” u/RCKitKat84 wrote.
“[Not the A**hole]. You don’t “overreact”. If the store owner wants his income back, he can fire the misogynist,” u/sammasc123 wrote. “You are not responsible for putting up with men treating you badly just for introducing a woman. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.”
“I would edit my original review to include how the owner spoke to me and dismissed all concerns about his employee,” u/ssnowangelz suggested.
Newsweek contacted u/throwitinthecorner10 for comment.