If you’ve ever planned a wedding, you’ll know it can be quite an undertaking. With the average engagement period being around 15 months in the US, there’s a lot to think about during that time – from guest lists and menu to outfits and decorations.
Elyse and Betsy are the sister team behind The Wedding Planning Guide, a Chicago-based wedding planning company that also creates and shares content online. Working in the industry since 2013, the wedding planning duo share their experiences, top tips and insights on TikTok, where they have over 200,000 followers.
We spoke to Elyse about her experience as a wedding planner and asked her for some tips along the way.
“Our favorite thing about wedding planning is seeing all the planning, hard work and attention to detail come together for the big day,” Elyse said. Newsweek: “It’s great to see everything the couple dreamed of come to life.”
The past few years have been difficult for the wedding industry and for many couples hoping to get married. According to a survey conducted worldwide by Statista, 82% of weddings that were due to take place in April 2020 have been postponed.
Another survey published in September 2021 found that 62% of Americans who got married in 2020 said guests should keep social distance during the ceremony.
“Experiencing wedding planning through COVID was weird and interesting,” Elyse said. “We’ve seen couples get creative, we’ve seen them modify their marriages to accommodate ever-changing rules and all sorts of interesting places – backyards, city yards, rooftops and dining rooms. eating houses transformed into ceremonial and reception spaces.
“Even though it was stressful, and not what the couples imagined for their wedding, it was cool to see them focus on their love and become more relaxed and fun with what they were planning.”
Sharing their expertise on TikTok and Instagram forced Elyse and Betsy to boil down advice to short videos and posts, hoping to create easy-to-digest information for couples. The most important things?
“We think the most important tips are to have a solid, detailed schedule to share with your vendors and wedding party,” Elyse explained. “You should start creating your timeline as soon as you book your ceremony and reception. That way you know how your day is likely to go and how long to book vendors for.”
Another tip? Keeping things simple. Elyse said, “For example, don’t make too many photo stops with your wedding party or overload yourself with DIY decorations. The more planned and simple your day is, the calmer and happier you’ll be.”
When it comes to planning your big day, Elyse explained that it can be easy to get caught up in other people’s opinions. From your future mother-in-law to the bridesmaids, everyone feels the need to contribute… The best option is to avoid asking for advice altogether.
“When it comes to weddings, everyone has an opinion and would love to have a say in your plans,” Elyse said. “It can quickly become overwhelming. If necessary, limit the circle you plan to confide in about wedding stuff. For example, it might seem like fun on TV, but keep your clothing shopping group small, especially if you already struggling to make big decisions.”
Weddings are also full of traditions – from who will walk the bride down the aisle to the bouquet toss. “There are so many traditions when it comes to weddings,” Elyse said. “Many couples feel obligated to follow certain traditions even if they don’t reflect who they are as a couple. Never keep a tradition because you think that’s what you should do at a wedding – choose the traditions you love and leave the rest behind.”
This week the internet slammed a man who suggested guests pay to attend a wedding. In another viral clip, a bride and her bridesmaids’ personalized wedding crocs have caught the eye online.