The internet claims a man was asked to walk his sister down the aisle instead of dad


The internet is behind a man whose sister asked him if he would walk her down the aisle at her wedding, even though their father feels slighted.

Redditor u/acringeymotorcycle asked the infamous subreddit r/AmITheA**hole if he should acquiesce to his estranged father’s request, and got nearly 5,000 upvotes and 600 comments for his issue.

In the post, he says he was 14 when his mother died in childbirth 20 years ago. Although his little sister, Elise, was just a baby, their father blamed her for killing his wife. He became a heavy drinker and the original poster (OP) stepped in to take care of his three siblings with the help of his aunt and some family friends.

“My dad was almost never in the picture, he fell into a deep depression and almost died of an overdose three times. I knew he wanted to be involved, I tried to help him as much as possible but it hurt to watch,” he said. wrote.

When Elise started talking, she called her older brother “Dada”. Although he tried to get Elise to stop calling him that, he eventually gave up.

“I thought if she saw me as her father, then I was doing something right,” he wrote.

But when Elise was around 5, their father overheard her calling her brother “dad” and accused him of trying to take his place, adding that Elise “doesn’t deserve to be part of this family after she killed his mother.” Shortly after his explosion, u/acringeymotorcycle moved with his siblings to a small apartment with the help of his aunt.

Since then, their father has been sober for a decade and tried to start a relationship with Elise a few years ago. Although the relationship began to recover, after his engagement, Elise asked her brother to walk her down the aisle in place of her father.

During a planning dinner, he made a joke about needing a better suit because he was the one walking Elise down the aisle. Although everyone laughed, his father asked what he meant.

“Elise stepped in and explained to me that she wanted me to walk her down the aisle because it was fine because I always walked her to school every day of her life,” he said. he writes.

Although the rest of those reunited “thought it was nice”, their father and paternal grandmother then took u/acringeymotorcycle aside to say he should have declined as the role traditionally belongs to the father. They told him that he “[knows] how hard my dad worked to be a good dad to Elise.” While u/acringeymotorcycle said he would think about it, since then his grandmother has called multiple times to say he shouldn’t “take that away” from his father.

A bride asked her brother who raised her to walk her down the aisle, rather than the father who accused her of killing her mother who died in childbirth.
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The tradition of a father walking his daughter down the aisle dates back to when arranged marriages were more common, according to Brides magazine. Marriage historian Susan Wagoner told the magazine that at that time brides were a “financial liability”, but now, she says, the custom is seen more as a father supporting his daughter.

In certain ceremonies, the celebrant asks the father “who is giving this woman in marriage to this man”, but Brides said, it’s fine to ask the just officiant to thank the bride’s father for walking her down the aisle. In cases where the father is irrelevant, the bride will usually ask another significant person in her life to walk her down the aisle or even walk alone.

Reddit strongly backed u/acringeymotorcycle, telling him he’s the one to walk his sister down the aisle because he’s the one she asked for.

“[Not the A**hole]…Tell your father and [Grandma] That Traditionally, a man accepts responsibility for his children and does not blame them for things beyond his control. Traditionally, men do not become alcoholics and do not force children to become parents. Tell them traditionally it’s up to whoever the BRIDE wants,” u/The_Fires_Of_Orc wrote in the top rated comment with 11,100 upvotes. daughter’ on her special day. Family isn’t just biological , it’s who you choose.”

“And if the dad takes that away from OP, he proves that inside he’s still this drunken loser who only cares about himself. It will show that he doesn’t really respect Elise or her wishes,” added u/AllButACrazyCatLady.

“It’s called ‘too little, too late’. The moment he yelled at his 4-year-old daughter that she had killed her mother, he lost all paternity rights and none of his privileges .That’s like saying he was responsible for her death by impregnating her, it’s sad that OP’s mom took the best part of him with her when she died,” u/randomusername71175 wrote.

Newsweek contacted u/acringeymotorcycle for comment.


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