Being thrust into the limelight can be tough, but it’s even tougher being followed by people you’ve never met before. The ultimatum: get married or move on stars Nathan (Nate) Ruggles and Lauren Pounds know all too well what it is.
Since the Netflix dating show premiered on April 6, the couple have faced online abuse from viewers of the show. They spoke to Newsweek on the difficulties of dealing with fan hatred, why ultimatums aren’t for everyone and more.
Nate Ruggles and Lauren Pounds on Dealing with Trolls
The couple were mocked about their relationship and had their romance mocked and belittled by some fans of The ultimatum: get married or move on. But they chose to rise above the hate and focus on each other.
On how they were portrayed on the show, Ruggles said Newsweek“I hate how our history and relationship has been twisted to be seen in a negative light, but I still wouldn’t change anything I did.”
Eliminating the trolls, he added: “Lauren and I got exactly what we wanted and despite all the hate we get from people we don’t know, what matters most is that we’re so happy together and we are proud that we have never left each other.”
Clearly explaining his love for Pounds, Ruggles explained: “The ultimatum the experience made it very clear to me how much I love Lauren. In a situation where you’re dating other people who are also supposed to be ‘matches’ for you, I’ve never felt anyone come close to how I feel about Lauren.”
Lauren Pounds issues ‘toxic’ ultimatums
The whole premise of the Netflix show was that contestants were given an ultimatum to either marry the person they arrived with or leave after going through trial marriages. However, Ruggles and Pounds completely ignored this when they decided to get engaged on Choice Night.
Still, Pounds made it clear that she doesn’t think ultimatums are healthy or effective, and instead recommended couples try talking to a therapist.
Speaking about what she learned from the experience, she said, “I learned that you should work through your issues with your partner alone, go to therapy, or take a break/break up. Ultimatums are toxic.”
She continued: “To be honest, I think everyone’s relationship is different, so while I understand that kind of experience may have worked for Nick and Vanessa [Lachey] In the past, it was absolutely not for Nathan and me. I was hoping there would be professional therapists on hand.”
Nate Ruggles reveals Nick and Vanessa Lachey apologized off-camera
What fans didn’t get to see on The ultimatum: get married or move on were the poignant scenes of Nate dealing with his sister’s first birthday after she passed away. Naturally, it was a tough time for the actor and one in which he was comforted by co-stars Shanique Imari and April Marie.
It was the support of the two women who weren’t Ruggles’ longtime partner that was questioned on the choice night, as Ruggles recalled Nick and Vanessa Lachey had asked how the two ladies had it. supported more than Pounds.
In response to the hosts, he said: “That question is not one that cannot be answered since no one can compare to the way Lauren supported me. She was there when I received the call she was there when I couldn’t breathe I think she was there for every step.
“Right beside me, always supporting me, always knowing the perfect thing to say or do. I couldn’t have gotten through this without Lauren.”
Later that night, the married couple apologized to Ruggles for the situation. Ruggles recalled, “Vanessa and Nick came up to me immediately afterwards and apologized for the question and gave me a big hug and lots of nice words.”
The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On Season 1 is available to watch on Netflix now.