My stepmother fears she crossed a family line by cutting her stepson’s hair without his mother’s knowledge
Reddit users backed a stepmom’s act of cutting off her stepson’s long hair after the boy asked for a buzz cut – but all was not well in this scenario, as the the child’s mother was less than pleased with what had happened.
“AITA for shaving off my stepson’s long hair without his mother’s permission?” asked Reddit user “Logical-Mulberry-883” in a March 17 post on Reddit’s “Am I the A—–e” subreddit.
In the post, the Reddit explained that she and her husband have three sons together, ages 5, 4, and 2, and she also has two stepsons: a 13-year-old and a 10-year-old.
They shared custody of these boys with the children’s mother, she said.
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“I cut my children’s hair myself, and my stepsons get their hair cut at a hairdresser when their mother has custody,” Logical-Mulberry-883 explained, with the boys “occasionally” having their hair cut. hair when they are with their father.
On “Wednesday afternoon, I decided to give my 4 and 5 year olds a haircut,” the mom wrote.
Her 10-year-old stepson then asked her to cut her hair as well, she said.
“His hair was currently medium length and he had been growing it out for a while,” she wrote. “He wanted me to buzzcut him.”
After confirming that her stepson was sure she wanted his hair cut, she asked her husband if it was okay if she cut the boy’s hair.
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“My husband asked if I would wait until he got home so I could watch it and record it,” Logical-Mulberry-883 said.
And so, “when he came home, I shaved him and (the son-in-law) was very happy with the result”.
The mother told the mother-in-law that “I had no right to cut her son’s hair without his permission”.
Her stepson’s mother, however, was not of the same mind.
“She immediately called my husband and was (angry) about the haircut,” Logical-Mulberry-883 said.
“Later that night, she texted me…attacking me and saying that I was not allowed to cut her son’s hair without his permission, and that was a big change. and that I shouldn’t have allowed him to do it impulsively.”
Logical-Mulberry-883 said she did not respond to messages from her stepson’s mother as she “didn’t want to fuel any drama”.
She wrote to others on Reddit, “I thought (my) stepson was happy with his haircut and that’s all that really matters,” she said, but has since reconsidered. the situation.
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“The more I think about it, the more I don’t know if she’s right,” she said.
“If my son had a stepmother and came home with a drastically different haircut, I think I might have been upset too, and maybe thought that person crossed an unspoken boundary,” a- she writes.
She then asked the others if she was wrong in her actions.
In a follow-up comment to the post, Logical-Mulberry-883 clarified that long hair has no cultural significance to her stepsons.
Fox News Digital has reached out to the original Reddit poster for comment.
On the AITA subreddit, people on Reddit can reply to posts and say the poster is “NTA” (“Not the A—–e”), “YTA” (“You’re the A—- -e”), “NAH” (“No A—–e Here”) or “ESH” (“Everyone Sucks Here”).
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Users can “upvote” answers they find useful and “upvote” those that are not.
In this scenario, the majority of the 800+ responses supported Logical-Mulberry-883 – and further criticized her husband for not telling his ex-wife about the haircut.
“You got his dad’s okay, and he’s old enough to make his own decisions about his hair anyway,” Reddit user “Outrageously_Penguin” wrote in the top-voted reply.
“It would have been weird for you to call his mum and ask after his dad had already said to move on,” the same commenter said.
Another comment praised Logical-Mulberry-883 for trying to avoid drama with his stepson’s mother.
“NTA. Your stepson asked you to buzzcut him and you asked him if he was sure and you got confirmation from his dad,” said a Redditor with the username “The_IT_Dude.” .
“Looks like your stepson was very happy with the result and that should be the most important thing,” the user said.
“It’s understandable that his mother is upset, but it’s not like you made the decision without consulting anyone. You also didn’t fuel any drama, which is always a good thing,” The_IT_Dude added. .
Others criticized Logical-Mulberry-883 for not taking the time to reach out to the boy’s mother.
“I guess it’s unpopular, but I think YTA. Or at least problematic,” Reddit user “Active_Visual_1942” said.
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“Getting your hair cut without telling her is one thing, but doing a buzz cut on shoulder-length hair without at least telling (the) mum shows a lack of respect for her as a parenting partner,” said the netizen.
“This one’s about your husband.”
The person added, “Even as a married person, I wouldn’t make the decision to seriously alter my child’s appearance without telling my husband.”
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Another user was more succinct.
“NTA,” wrote a Reddit user by the name of “poeadam.”
“This one’s about your husband.”