My crush doesn’t love me back

DEAR ABBY: I have a friend who recently separated from an abusive husband. I’ve always had feelings for her and recently shared them with her. My problem is that it feels like I have to go through broken glass just to get her to talk to me. Last week I had emergency surgery, and even though she said she would, she never visited me. Now that I’m out of the hospital, nothing has changed. Should I just let her go and forget about her? — WANTS A CHANCE IN COLORADO

DEAR WANTS: You mentioned that this “friend” recently separated from an abusive husband. You didn’t say she was divorced. The woman you’re trying to pursue has been hurt. She may not be ready for a romantic relationship for a very long time. Her actions show she’s not interested in you, so yeslet her go and look for someone who can reciprocate your feelings.

DEAR ABBY: I have a friend who is always late. She comes to my house once a week and I help her with phone calls and paperwork because she has a disability. She says she’ll be there in 10 minutes, but it always ends up lasting at least half an hour. Another thing she does is tell me, “I’ll be there between 3:30 and 4:00.” It gives him some leeway, but it means I have to be ready at 3:30 p.m. She can arrive at my house at 4 o’clock and she is still in her “breathing room period”. How can I make sure this friend is on time? (I can’t go to her place because it’s too small and crowded.) — FRUSTRATED HELP IN NEW YORK

DEAR ASSISTANT: Tell your friend that you don’t mind helping her, but you need her to be more punctual than she has been. This means that she must be at your house at a specific time because waiting for her for half an hour is inconvenient for her. you. If she appreciates your help, she will obey. Otherwise, she would have to find someone else to help her with her phone calls and paperwork.

DEAR ABBY: Last year we attended my husband’s cousin’s son’s high school graduation. We gave him $100. Well, this year our son graduated. All he got from them was $20! Are end-of-study monetary gifts no longer reciprocal? I thought if someone gave your child $50, when their child graduated, you would give them $50 as well. Am I old fashioned? Isn’t that how it works anymore? I’m a little offended that they thought so little of our son, especially since we gave so much to their son. — MIFFE IN MINNESOTA

DEAR MIFFE: I don’t think you are old fashioned, however, you can be presumptuous. I don’t know how rich your husband’s cousin and his family are (or aren’t). Since you didn’t mention it, I don’t think you do either. But it’s a mistake to count other people’s money because they usually have less than what other people think they have. If someone gives less, another reason may be that he has other relatives to give to.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or PO Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

New York Post

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