The internet has slammed a mother who refused to let her daughter cut her long hair after a father revealed he went against his wife’s wishes by taking their daughter to the salon.
Shared on Reddit on Sunday, user aitathrowaway795939 posted the story which now has over 23,000 upvotes and thousands of comments.
In the post, he explained, “My wife and I have a baby girl, whom I will call Anna. Anna has very thick, blonde, curly hair which my wife loves. Ever since she was little, she has been going through hours styling her every day, braiding her, straightening her and styling her in all sorts of ways.
“Our bathroom cabinets are always filled to the brim with a bunch of hair lotions, oils, creams and other fancy products whose names I don’t even know. I think it’s more fair to say that my wife is a bit obsessed with the totality.”
But the father explained that Anna, 8, was not so keen on having her hair done. With hair past her waist, he explained that even though it looked lovely, she hated having it brushed every morning.
“Lately she’s been asking for a shorter haircut,” the Reddit user shared. “My wife ignored her whenever the subject came up in hopes she would forget about it, but none of that ended up happening.”
Instead, Anna asked her father if he would take her for a haircut: “I was reluctant at first because I didn’t know how my wife would react, but I agreed when I saw how excited the kid was about something as simple as a haircut.”
The online site Everyday Feminism advocates allowing children to choose their own hairstyle. Writer Britni de la Cretaz said: “It comes down to the fact that as a feminist I believe in bodily autonomy – not just for me but for everyone.” In the article, she explains that choosing your own hairstyle gives children ownership of their bodies, teaches them that their wishes should be respected, and helps them develop a sense of identity.
The father revealed that he drove his daughter to the hairdresser, where she was able to flip through magazines and choose a photo of a haircut. “When she chose a very short hairstyle, I knew I was going to be in deep shit with my wife,” the Redditor wrote. “At that time, however, there was no turning back. I mean, what could I have really done? I told her no, she couldn’t do herself. haircut that she was so ecstatic about because her mom wouldn’t have liked it?”
After the haircut, he revealed that Anna couldn’t stop smiling, showing everyone her new look at the salon and even asking to have her picture taken when she usually hates having her picture taken. .
But when his wife came home from work, the Redditor says things quickly took a turn.
“She refused to even look at Anna,” he said. “[She] locked herself in her room and cried, then got in the car and drove off. It’s been a day now and she still hasn’t come back. I knew she wouldn’t react well to the haircut, but I didn’t expect her to take it so badly. The kid is upset too and no matter how much I reassure her, she still thinks she’s in trouble because she got a haircut.”
Despite the Reddit user’s concern, netizens overwhelmingly sided with the father, telling him he had done the right thing.
One commenter said: “It’s not about Anna’s hair. It’s about her bodily autonomy. I’ve made a few comments elsewhere, but this situation stuck in my mind. What your woman has done and continues to do is send the message to Anna that her body is not hers, and despite her own wishes, she should convey the feelings of others about what she is doing with her body in first. Is this really the message you want your daughter to learn about the long-term implications of learning to give in to other people’s desires about her body.”
Another Reddit user wrote, “She’s 8 and she should have a say in how she does her hair,” while one commenter said, “My mom never let me choose how I got my hair cut, I’m over 40 now and I still resent him. It’s just hair. Your wife is far too dramatic. “
“The joy this haircut brought to your child is what’s important,” another user wrote. “You have supported your child’s bodily autonomy and prevented her from feeling her mother’s daily pain.”
Newsweek has contacted aitathrowaway795939 for comment.