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Internet supports designated driver tax for women: ‘cheaper than Uber’

Commenters backed a woman’s decision to charge a “designated driver fee” by asking her friends to cover her soda or food when they go out and she drives.

The anonymous woman, known as u/twizabeth, posted about her situation on Reddit’s popular “Am I The A**hole” subreddit, where it received more than 8,500 upvotes and 880 comments. The position can be found here.

Designated driving, which was pushed in a 1988 campaign, is the agreement to be the sober driver while others drink in an effort to limit drunk driving.

According to the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA), 32 people die every day in drunk driving crashes in the United States, or about one every 45 minutes.

The woman said she was called a jerk for expecting her friends to cover her meals when she was the designated driver.

In the post titled “Am I the asshole for making my friends cover my dinner if I DD for them while bar hopping?” the woman said she didn’t like alcohol or being around groups of drunk people.

She said that even if she doesn’t drink, she will be happy to be her friends’ designated driver when they go out.

“I prefer when they tell me when they want to be picked up and I can pick them up later than spending all the time with them while they’re getting fucked up,” the post reads. “But I can be convinced to bar hop with them on one condition: if we go out to dinner, they cover my bill.”

She said if she doesn’t order dinner, she expects her friends to cover her sodas all night.

“It doesn’t have to be steak or anything expensive,” the post read. “I’m not asking anyone to buy me a $50 plate and I wouldn’t do that to my friends.”

But she said that in return for using petrol and spending time in crowded environments she doesn’t enjoy, she expects her friends to share the cost of her dinner.

“I was laughing and explaining it to a new friend and he called me a jerk and that my payment should be for my friends to come home safe,” the post read. “I replied that it was safe for them to go home without me accompanying them because I would pick them up, that is the price for dragging me to where I am uncomfortable. He said that it’s even worse because I’m charging them to date me.”

More than 880 users commented on the post, with many defending the woman’s expectation that her friends cover her food or drink in exchange for the ride.

“You are probably cheaper than an Uber and all the women in your group can potentially feel more comfortable then NTA,” one user commented.

“NTA. Paying for DD food and soft drinks should be just a courtesy in my opinion,” another user commented.

“NTA, and it looks like you and your buddies have a good system! another wrote. “Like, a plate of nachos or a burger or whatever in exchange for everyone having a good time and staying safe? I love it. If this new guy doesn’t like it, that sucks for him.”

Newsweek contacted u/twizabeth for comment.

In another viral ‘Am I the asshole’ post, a woman left users divided after picking up her drunk teenager from a party without telling her husband.

Another man was called after attending a party and leaving his wife at her mother’s house without the car.

Users also defended a woman who called her boyfriend “useless” after he got drunk and played video games when he was supposed to babysit her four-year-old.


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