Internet slams family accusing man’s wife of not managing diabetes

Commenters on a popular internet forum have slammed a person who blamed his sister-in-law for his brother’s declining health for not helping him manage his diabetes.

The original poster (OP), known only as u/Throwaway7991J, posted about the situation to Reddit’s popular r/AmITheA**hole forum, where it garnered over 9,000 upvotes and nearly than 3,000 comments, many criticizing the OP for blaming their sister. in-laws after struggling to pay for her husband’s insulin.

In the post titled “AITA for telling my brother’s wife that she is responsible for his declining health”, the OP explained that their brother, 30, was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes at a young age.

With type 1 diabetes, the individual’s pancreas is unable to produce enough insulin to maintain healthy sugar levels in the body. Without insulin, blood sugar cannot enter cells, which can lead to a harmful buildup in the blood.

An anonymous user has come under fire after posting on a popular internet forum that he blamed his sister-in-law for not managing his brother’s diabetes.
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Although less common than type 2 diabetes, more than 1.6 million Americans have type 1 diabetes, with about 65,000 new people diagnosed each year, estimates the nonprofit Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation. .

In order to manage type 1 diabetes, it is important for individuals to check their blood sugar levels throughout the day with a finger prick and to regulate blood glucose levels by injecting insulin, with a needle or pump worn on the leg, arm or abdomen. .

In the United States, insulin prices have tripled over the past decade, leaving many people struggling to afford their medications, even with insurance. Currently, a month’s worth of insulin can cost between $334 and $1,000, ABC News reported, citing a 2020 Kaiser Family Foundation report.

In March, the US House of Representatives passed the Affordable Insulin Now Act, which would limit the out-of-pocket insured patients would have to pay for the drug. However, the legislation still faces uncertain prospects in the equally divided Senate.

The PO said they grew up watching their parents deal with their brother’s condition for him, as he had never come to terms with diabetes. Over the years, the family took it upon themselves to monitor and correct her eating habits and insulin intake.

When the family met his wife, the poster explained that he could be “reckless” and “in denial” about his diabetes and that she needed to help them monitor his health.

“She did her best at first but started giving in to his complaints about not being able to eat this or that or when he complained about his insulin intake and having to pay for it,” it read. in the message.

For the past three months, the OP said their brother’s health had declined and he was in hospital due to a hyperglycemic episode, caused by a lack of insulin, and nearly fell into a diabetic coma.

“The reason was that he was not taking the right dose of insulin. I spoke to his wife and argued with her, she said he was deliberately continuing to increase his insulin dose so that he could save insulin and not have to buy it,” the post explained.

The PO replied that their sister-in-law was in charge of keeping an eye on her husband and that while it was unfortunate that the insurance was “screwed up”, she should have stopped him.

“She said I was being too hard on her but I told her that if he had done this under family supervision we wouldn’t have allowed it and so she bears some responsibility for his stay at hospital,” the post read. . “She started crying and asked for a minute for herself.”

After returning from the hospital, the OP’s father called to say that their sister-in-law had called him upset. The father told the PO that they shouldn’t have said what they told him.

“He said I should apologize but I don’t know if [sic] I was completely at fault here because I feel there is a bit of negligence on his part,” the post concluded.

Nearly 3,000 users commented on the post, with almost all agreeing that the OP was wrong and that their brother’s health is his responsibility and no one else’s.

“TLDR [too long; didn’t read] of this is your brother is an adult. As such, it is his sole responsibility to manage his health. His wife is there as support, not as a nurse,” one user commented, receiving nearly 30,000 upvotes. “Your parents let him down, and now he’s letting himself down. It’s pointless for you to pick on her. »

“She’s his wife, not his mom,” another user commented. “Stop treating women like your guardians.”

Others mentioned that not only was the OP and their brother at fault, but that the unreasonable price of insulin was to blame for the situation.

“OP is definitely TA because it definitely shouldn’t be up to the wife to deal with her husband’s condition,” one user commented. “Brother is TA for refusing to self-manage the disease and again the biggest A of all is America’s healthcare system because who decided that something people needed to survive, and that the creator sold the patent for just a dollar so people could access it for free, it should be so expensive.”

“I can’t understand that people in your country have to pay for insulin and if they can’t pay they die. not,” read another comment.

Newsweek contacted u/Throwaway7991J for comment.


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